Soulful Confidence Promise: I am in control

6_iamincontrolIt’s reasonable to assume that we feel comfortable being in control of ourselves and our lives. After all, we are ultimately responsible for our actions and our own personal development.

Life is unpredictable though and one thing you can’t control is how other people perceive you. No matter how confident you are, there’s bound to be someone who you don’t gel with and for whatever reason they won’t appreciate you or your brilliance.

Allowing other people’s negative perceptions of you to influence how you think and feel about yourself could cause self-doubt and bruise your self-confidence.

Growing evidence of brain plasticity

In Michael Merzenich’s TED Talk, Growing Evidence of Brain Plasticity, he talks about how we need to maintain our brain, how brain aerobics will be an important daily activity just as physical activity is today and also how a well-ordered life includes continuous learning. Another consideration is how to nurture yourself and that if you are in charge, everything is under your control.

Your happiness, your well-being, your abilities, your capacities, are capable of continuous modification, continuous improvement, and you’re the responsible agent and party. – Michael Merzenich’s, Growing Evidence of Brain Plasticity

Control versus controlling

A key distinction worth mentioning here is being in control is vastly different to being controlling. The former is a much more positive and empowering.

Knowing and believing that you are an intelligent, capable person who is prepared to take action to deal with any challenges you face will improve your outlook. It will also have a positive impact on your mental health and self-esteem.

If you recognise you’re not fully taking responsibility or action, firstly, pause and be loving towards yourself. Secondly, reflect on what is creating the conflict and what you believe to be true and remember this statement “I am in control”.

Only you truly knows what’s going on in your mind and so often we have the answers within us. Tap into this level of consciousness and connect to the emotion without fear. Ultimately you have to be in control to take control.

Until next time, continue to smile and be loving and gentle with yourself and I look forward to sharing the next Soulful Confidence Promise with you soon.

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