In The Path to Love, Deepak Chopra writes about unpeeling the layers of love and how one of the most valuable things you can learn about yourself is what you mean by the words “I love you”.
“The meaning you impart is complex because it contains you. Your past associations with love, your childhood imprints, your unspoken expectations and beliefs are all packaged into love.” – Deepak Chopra
Love is as exhilarating as it can be painful. It’s one of our most potent, if not the most potent human emotion. We experience the best part of love as a wonderful feeling, a beautiful quality and a passionate expression. It’s a foundational part of our psyche.
Babies and children thrive with love and it helps the brain to grow. Love also impacts on a child’s physical, mental and emotional growth. But what happens as we get older? Can adult brain cells change their structures in response to new, positive, love-related experiences?
In early romantic love, brain circuits ignite and the same brain circuits that flood with dopamine and norepinephrine activate the brain’s reward system. This also happens with new experiences and why date night for long-term couples is so effective when they are targeted around different and new activities that both partners enjoy.
When we genuinely speak the words “I love you” and hear those words in a receptive manner, could this affect our overall wellbeing and longevity? If that were true, imagine the positive impact if we said those three little words to ourselves with the purest intention?
I believe real love starts with how we love ourselves. How we respect our body and mind. Not giving power to the inner critic; rather connecting more deeply on a spiritual level and listening to our true inner thoughts and feelings. Dealing with fear in the form of acceptance and thus opening up opportunities for courage and personal growth.
Self-love and acceptance of ourselves, perceived flaws and all, provides us with a solid level of assurance. If we don’t have that self-love in place, there becomes a need to source love elsewhere. Could that possibly overrule the chance to experience true love with another person in the sense of validation versus the heart-centred expansion that you may enjoy from real love?
Love is such a rich, expansive topic and it’s something I will continue to explore and celebrate in my own life and through A Glittering Soul. What about you?
Personal development questions:
What could you do to bring more love into your life?
How can you nurture love so it flourishes and guides you in your daily existence?
How do you feel about the phrase “I love you”?
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